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If a person uses “they” as a non-gendered personal pronoun, does it get treated grammatically any different than if it’s a plural “they”?

Treating “they” grammatically as a singular pronoun feels a little odd, so I thought it should still be used with pluralized grammar (eg. “are” not “is”) but wanted to be sure. I feel like knowing the grammar usage surrounding non-binary pronouns is an important facet in fully respecting them.

One wouldn’t say “They is coming to dinner”, but “They are coming to dinner”.  We do this reflexively in English all the time, if you notice it. Several other languages also have gender neutral pronouns (both singular and plural). This PDF from the Department of Chemistry at York University is a great resource for personal pronouns.